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Volume Two Issue Two
February-March 1999

By Alexis Adams - Gleaton

This evening was especially memorable to me as it was also my wedding night. Tom & I had our ceremony 1 hour before the event began. It was beautiful and the pictures from it can be found on the site. Approximately 30 of our friends from Bigger And Better gathered with us as we said our vows. After the kiss sealing our Union we tossed the bouquet and cut the cake. Patty ended up catching the bouquet so maybe Patty will be next.

After the wedding we moved right along to the wine tasting. John Davis of Pieroth Wines and one of his associates put on that part of the event. We were treated to ten different wines along with a great explanation of each. He also educated us a lot about wines and what to look for. Also how to properly taste them. A few of us decided to buy some from him after the presentation.

Then we moved along to our double fashion show. First Jody with Myles Ahead dressed up some of our event attendees and had them model her clothes for everyone. All the models looked great and Jody's clothes were beautiful. They can be seen now at the Myles ahead webite. A link for them is on our website. After a while it was Mimis turn to show her wares. Her company Beach Bubbles treated us with two piece bathing wear. Again our models did an excellent job. Even Missy who was brand new to our club agreed to model. She looked gorgeous in her bathing suit!

The event lasted till 2 A.M. we all had a wonderful time.

By Alexis Adams - Gleaton

Each day I realize how little most people understand about people of size.Even before I became the 475 lb size I am today, for most of my life my weight was constantly on my mind. It entered into many decisions that I had to make on a regular basis. For instance, dining out, theater going,swimming,car rides, trips on a plane and so forth.

Whenever I went somewhere my first thought was "will I fit?" followed by "How many people are going to see me trying to fit?". Thats probably why I tended to isolate a lot. It was easier then actually trying. As time passes and I age, I have started to realize that it really doesn't matter what others say, or how they look at me. If I am doing what I want to do then that's all that matters.

What I would like to do is enlist everyones help in building an all state database of Fat Friendly places,medical professionals, hospitals,theaters,attractions & so forth. I would also like to hear about those that are not. I want to be able to reach out to those that aren't and try to educate them. Perhaps we can increase our number of fat friendly people so that we may feel accepted as we should. The best address to email this to is marketing@biggeramdbetter Please mark the subject as Activism. Thanks for your help.

By Thomas Gleaton
Fat or thin, all people expect professionals in a field to know "what to do" in their area of expertise. In a hospital, one assumes that doctors, nurses, & paramedics are trained and given procedures to handle every situation.
As an F.A. (fat admirer), I had the opportunity to see first-hand
how wrong that assumption is. I give these professionals credit, they try to heal the sick & make people who are suffering more comfortable to the best of their ability. I give every health care professional I came into contact with respect for doing all they could to help Alexis and I during our week long "vacation" at Florida Hospital.
Our story begins with the sudden onset of an illness that caused Alexis to ask me to call 911. In the time I have known Alexis, I knew that ambulance rides & trips to the hospital were nightmares for her & to be avoided at all costs. For her to tell me to call 911, I knew this was serious.
After calling 911, Alexis told me what to expect having been transported before like this. Surprisingly, she accurately predicted what happened next. Eight people showed up, a few firemen, two paramedics, and even a fire truck with a "big ladder" was brought in for the extra manpower. The EMT's knew ahead of time that they would need extra people. What bewilders me is they would bring an ambulance that did not have room to transport Alexis functionally, and the "group" which had not dealt with Alexis before. Complicating the matter was the fact that the health problem she was going in for caused transport to be harder to accomplish, and much more painful for her to endure. I was nervous and scared as Alexis was hoisted up on a stretcher by eight men and women and lifted into the back of the ambulance. At one point Alexis fell forward while she was already lifted up four feet off the ground. These people handled the situation to the best of their ability, however at that point I realized that in yet another area our "one size fits all world" was rejecting Alexis's "bigger than life" body again.
By some cruel irony, the paramedics dropped her causing all 500lbs of her body weight to settle on the leg which was causing her to have to be transported. Apparently not accustomed to dealing with someone her size, they mistakenly expected Alexis to be able to just "sit up" and shift her own weight to get her body into a comfortable position.
Due to their inability to adjust her position, she was forced despite her own pain, discomfort and limited mobility to move herself into a position that was bearable. Looking into the ambulance, I saw her legs wedged between the edge of the stretcher and a large cabinet in the ambulance. I knew that was very painful, and it hurt me to know she was suffering more. I was thinking, "this is an ambulance, after all, how long could she be trapped in that position?"
The ambulance finally took off, and I jumped into my truck and followed as closely as I could. I ran a red light just to stay on her tail so I could be there when they got her out. I had quite a scare when I saw how they floundered putting her in. I had to see them take her out. I have also heard stories about rude comments & direct insults made by such personnel before. I felt that she had been spared that kind of treatment at least while I was there, so I wanted the same warm arrival to such a miserable place for her.
Arriving at the hospital I received my first lesson from my
Super-sized wife, as painful as it is for her to sit in the ambulance, she refused to get onto a standard sized hospital stretcher. I was confused at first, but showed only my support for her wishes. She indicated to a paramedic the fact that she could not sit on a standard stretcher because of the way she has to sit up or lay back at her size.
I made sense of the situation, knowing how she has to get in and out of a bed, and knowing how she sits every day. I have seen how her body works. I realize the difference in the way her posture has to be, and how she can't do some of the things that a smaller person takes for granted. Alexis is big, she needs more space than some to be safe and comfortable. Comfort, however, was not the main issue here. Her body must be in a certain position to continue normal circulation and keep her back from breaking under the stress of such weight. A combination of events that day taught me more than I had ever learned previously.
Alexis sat in the Ambulance waiting to be informed that the cart was ready to move her. Previously transporting her had left painful & humiliating memories, still vividly in her mind of being dragged through a hospital on a sheet on the floor. During her last trip, a solution was found to transport her around the hospital. The cart needed was low to the ground, most importantly wide! It's hard to imagine how serious it is that Alexis needs special precautions to preserve the health she has now. If her legs sit dangling off the edges of a standard stretcher, they would both shortly be asleep, in serious pain, at risk for a blood clot, and more serious complications that can occur.
After thirty minutes, the head nurse said that a standard stretcher was "regulation" and must be used. Alexis promptly reminded the paramedic how bad that would be. Once again he went back inside to consult the head nurse. In disbelief she came out to see why such special & inconvenient provisions were warranted. Seeing Alexis wedged in that ambulance she called maintenance to supply the carts. Alexis knew specifically what was needed. She had experienced this before. I noticed how oblivious people are to the existence of a person who is "too big" in our one size fits all mentality. An hour later, maintenance approached with the needed cart, mattress in place. Alexis reiterated how necessary it was to have two because of her legs. An hour & a half later, extreme pain building up in her bound legs & feeling lightheaded she agreed to get onto that single cart while the other cart was located
Eight people helped get Alexis out of this narrow enclosure. They attempted several times to pick her up under her arms. That's very painful, & another example of people not understanding how a body that big works. Would a paramedic attempt to suspend 500lbs from one arm by the hand? Then, why attempt to grab a 500 lb person under her arms to lift her. These people are not trained about size. They were doing what they are trained to do with "average sized" individuals. Even I might make the same mistakes if I did not consider size every time I helped her. Alexis' shoulder already had problems, and this added to the tremendous pain she had from her leg, and now having both legs down for an hour and smashed in a space that was too small for them her pain was increasing.
I realize now that they simply didn't know what to do. If Alexis had not been insistent on not using an average stretcher, our problems would have been much worse. She was removed from the ambulance, & helped to get onto the makeshift cart. She struggled to keep her legs together, but the paramedics still had to make sure that she did not start rolling off of one side or another of this cart that was already much wider than their own stretchers.
Once inside the ER area, I helped her to get up and walk to the restroom. I stayed with her to make sure she was ok. Upon returning to her cart & feeling faint, she asked me to call the nurse. The nurse came in & I was already trying to be sure that she did not fall back as she was in shock. A doctor came and said "you're not going to faint" just then she fell back and a nurse caught her as she fainted & fell completely back. Unlike some of us she can't stay in that position and continue to breathe normally. She also experiences serious back pain laying flat on her back due to her shape. It puts extraordinary pressure on her lower back. Alexis was given oxygen, & before long the pain of that position brought her around enough to sit up. Upon taking her pulse and pressure, she had a pulse of 44 (average for her is 76) and a pressure of 52 over 42 (usually 100 over 70). Alexis believes that it was the position she was in that contributed to such deterioration of her condition. Two hours later a 2nd cart arrived. Another half of an hour passed, and I could not handle seeing my wife in pain any longer. I grabbed the cart myself from the hall and placed it under her swollen legs.
Three more hours passed, before a nurse entered explaining they were admitting her & getting ready to transport her again and they took away the second cart. They actually tied the corners of the sheet to hold her legs on the cart. I could've understood doing this as a temporary measure in moving her right away, but she would have been left in that position for three hours had I not untied her legs after the first half hour. I realize that in a busy hospital it takes time to progress from emergency to a room, but to take away her comfort for that long and endanger her circulation by tying up her legs after what already happened started to anger me.
It was necessary to use just one cart to get into the elevator and down halls. I walked along side holding up the corners of that sheet to keep her legs together without tying them up. Once in the room, the nurses were really considerate and caring. Enduring transport and the uncomfortable and dangerous wait already, it was nice to see some concern and consideration.
The room was comfortable, quiet & out of the way. At the end of a hall, we were secluded except for a waiting area with chairs. Everyone was cheery & encouraged her to get better and offering all kinds of help. I almost would have felt comfortable trying to get some work done during her stay, but no matter how quick they were to offer help, when she really needed some assistance they were very slow to come to her aid. Sometimes hours would pass before anyone answered.
It's hard to criticize when every one's pleasant and willing to help. I could not leave for more than two hours without worrying that Alexis would hurt herself trying to get up without assistance. Alexis was given a "water pill" which caused her to need to get up more, and without fail every time I was gone for more than two hours she had already gotten up on her own at least once. Four times in a week, I was gone for 2 hours. Each time she would call for help and wait an hour before she had to get up herself due to the urgency.
Most staff did their best to help. When things were getting uncomfortable there were people doing their best but were at a loss as to how to help someone of this size.
Sharing this, I hope that super-sized people learn to be advocates of their own safety and dignity. Especially in situations with professionals who "know what they are doing" and you may feel intimidated. A super-sized individual is constantly exposed to peer pressure, ridicule, and overly aggressive diet marketing. Another concern of mine in our "one size fits all " world is the medical arena. In most cases, there are available precautions and procedures for someone who is slightly over-weight, or even considered "obese" but with a more manageable body shape. There are times, when a super-sized person's life is actually in danger because of assumptions made based on training for and experience with average sized individuals. Emergency personnel realized that extra man-power would be needed without even a mention from me on the 911 call. It was the only preparation they thought about making though. An hour and a half wait to get out of the ambulance is unacceptable. I shudder to imagine what could have happened had she not been conscious to help them under the circumstances. In a case like that, I would have to be her voice and I know now that I can never make the assumption that they would not need any help from me. Usually, there is an "I know better than you" attitude in professional people. They don't learn until their way fails, then they have no choice but to listen. I hope not a single super-sized person who reads this thinks that they will be taken care of without incident without speaking up. I think that there are times when even the best medical professionals really don't realize the danger in letting something go just because someone is "uncomfortable". I'm glad I was here to help my wife during this ordeal in any way that I could while it was happening. I really empathize with those who are in a similar situation alone. I am sharing our own experience in hope that people realize the danger that lies in the area of emergency medical care. People must take this seriously, and learn about this "just in case" they are ever in a similar situation.


By lauren Hall
You are a special person
and you mean the world to me
no one could ever take your place
and friends we'll always be
You're always there to lean on
when I need to shed a tear
you're always there to listen
when I talk about my fears
So thank you friend for all you've done
you've been faithful and been true
and if you should ever need someone
I'll be there for you

What Reason Then

Blessed are the days we live
Bless the love we have to give
For if we had no love to give
What reason then for us to live

Blessed are the friends we make
Bless the joy from them we take
For if there were no joy to take
What reason then for friends to make

A giving heart is what we share
With those for whom we really care
But if we really didn't care
What reason then our hearts to share

Rejoice when good friends come your way
Give blessings to that special day
But if your life they weren't part
We wouldn't bless what they impart

So blessings go to those we love
Whose friendship is so well thought of
But if that friendship were not there
What reason then to go elsewhere



3 packages refrigerator buttermilk biscuits
1/2 cup sugar
2 teaspoons cinnamon
1/2 cup brown sugar
1 stick butter

Preheat the oven to 350°. Quarter the biscuits and roll each quarter into a ball. Mix the white sugar and
cinnamon. Roll each biscuit ball into the mixture. Coat each one well. Place them all into a greased Bundt
pan. Boil the brown sugar and butter together until sugar is dissolved. Pour over the biscuit balls.
Sprinkle the remaining sugar/cinnamon mixture on top. Bake 30 minutes.


1/2 cup self rising flour
1 cup corn meal
1 onion, chopped fine
1 egg
1 teaspoon sugar
vegetable oil

Mix flour, corn meal, onion, egg, and sugar with enough buttermilk to make a stiff batter. Drop by
teaspoonfuls into deep hot oil. Fry until golden brown.


1 lb. black beans
2 onions, chopped
2 bell peppers, chopped
1 Tablespoon cumin
1 teaspoon oregano
1 bay leaf
1/2 teaspoon pepper
2 teaspoons salt
1/2 cup olive oil
2 qts. water

Wash beans and soak overnight. The next day, boil the beans in the same water. Add all the other
ingredients. Cover. Cook slowly about 1 1/2 hours. Serve over white rice with chopped onion and

(Cajun Layer Cake)

2 cups flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
10 tablespoons butter
1 1/2 cups sugar
3 eggs, separated, whites beaten until stiff
1 cup buttermilk
2 squares squares unsweetened chocolate, melted
2 teaspoons vanilla
1/2 teaspoon almond extract

Preheat your oven to 300°. Grease and flour 2 nine" round cake pans. Separate the eggs and beat the
whites till stiff. Sift the flour, baking soda, and salt together. Cream the butter and sugar in another
bowl. Add egg yolks. Alternate adding the flour mixture and buttermilk, then add chocolate and mix well
by beating about 3 minutes. Fold in the 3 beaten egg whites, vanilla, and almond extracts. Bake for 45
minutes or until done. After the cake cools, split each layer in half to make 4 thin layers.

The filling:

2 1/2 cups evaporated milk
2 squares semi-sweet chocolate
1 1/4 cups sugar
5 Tablespoons flour
4 egg yolks
2 tablespoons butter
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/2 teaspoon almond extract

Melt the chocolate in a double boiler with the milk. Add the sugar and flour, and stir over medium until
thick. Add 4 egg yolks all at once and stir rapidly. Cook 2 or 3 minutes more. Remove from heat, and add
butter, vanilla, and almond extract. Cool and spread on cake, layering as you go. Do not spread on top

The frosting:

1 1/4 cups sugar
1 cup evaporated milk
2 squares unsweetened chocolate
4 tablespoons butter
1 teaspoon vanilla

Boil the sugar and milk together, stirring constantly. Reduce heat and simmer for 6 minutes without
stirring. Remove from heat and drop in chocolate. Add the butter and vanilla and return to medium low
heat, cooking 1 or 2 minutes. Cool in refrigerator. Beat thoroughly and then spread over the top and
sides of the cake.


By Missy Phillbrick

I am Fat! I am proud! I am me!

My husband met Mimi while working as a security officer at the company Mimi works for. Jeff and Mimi started talking, and Mimi invited us to attend a Bigger and Better party. I was quite apprehensive and not sure what to expect. I had never been around a group of people who accepted me for who I was. But Jeff and I decided to go and check it out. It was my first time meeting Mimi, but she swept me up in a welcoming hug as if we had been friends for life. She told me that she was going to have some of the girls at the party model the bathing suits that she and her business partner Marianne had created, and asked if I would wear one. I was vehemently opposed to the idea, but by the end of the day, Mimi had me in a two piece bathing suit, modeling in front of a crowd of onlookers. I never could have dreamed of putting on a one-piece bathing suit, let alone a two piece!

However, that's Mimi: a sexy, sassy, very persuasive super size BBW with an infectious personality. She lives by one motto: I am fat. I am proud. I am me. I have to admit that it was difficult for her vivacious spirit and the pride she felt for herself to not rub off on me.

Mimi and I both grew up with the same mentality: HIDE YOUR BODY! Be ashamed, be very ashamed! On the contrary, Mimi has worked hard to help women of any size feel comfortable and proud of who they are. About a year ago, Mimi got frustrated because she could not find any decent bathing suits for BBW's. Clothing companies apparently shared the mentality that fat women should hide their bodies. The only type of suits Mimi could find had a skirt or shorts attached. Mimi was tired of hiding, and feeling like the word Fat was a four-letter word. She got together with her friend Marianne, a former designer of bathing suits for Hawaiian. They designed. Mimi cut. Marianne sewed. And Beach Bubbles was born. A web site for her company will soon be available.

Mimi has come a long way since her days in New Jersey. She loves to sing karaoke and won a contest five years ago that brought her here to Florida. The prize was a trip to this area. Mimi and her family fell in love with the area and moved here.

Ok you single guys, Mimi is waiting to hear from you. She loves singing karaoke, dancing, laughing, and cuddling. Send her an email. If you want to see a pic, check out the pictures on the Bigger and Better Website of the December 12th party. You'll be glad you did.

By Alexis Adams- Gleaton

This months FA spotlight is on Dave Whitlock. He is 42 years old and lives in Orlando. When Dave isn't online he is busy at work. His days & nights are a bit reversed as he works 11 7 A.M. most of the time as a triage nurse at a local hospital.

Dave stands 6 ft tall , has wavy brown hair, brown eyes and a killer smile. He is also currently single having been divorced now for 4 years after a 12 year marriage. He has 2 children. They are both boys 12 & 8.Their names are Steven & Craig and they live with their mom.

Some of Daves hobbies include, Model Trains, Remote Control airplanes, Paintball, Basketball & he plays bass guitar. He actually was in a band for 5 years.

One of his goals is to travel all over the united states. Randomly stopping here & there on whims. First though he wants to find Mrs Right to share the experience with. Dave has traveled extensively in the past. He has been to England, Ireland,Scotland, Greece & Spain. His stories about these trips are fascinating.

His ideal mate would be a large to supersize BBW. Children are fine. His only qualifications is they must know how to laugh. He loves a good joke & frequently goes to comedy clubs.

Dave plans to attend lots of the Bigger And Better Events. If you want to meet him that would be the perfect place. I really enjoyed getting to know him. He is a strong yet compassionate man. He seems like he'd make a great companion for any woman.


This event will take place September 3rd-5th 1999. The location is still to be determined but will be in the Orlando area. This will be a three day event. Lots of fun is planned. Prizes for the contestants. If you'd like to be a contestant or just want to volunteer your help on this project email me,




March 27th, 1999
Mardi Gras Style Cajun Night
Place Tom & Alexis Time 7 p.m.
Dress Up ! Plan to Party Hearty!
Pot Luck Cajun & Creole & New Orleans Style Foods

April 10th,1999
Lingerie Fashion Show & Game Night
Place Alexis & Tom's Time 7 p.m.
Get Ready to Play , Sing & Party
Pot Luck Finger Foods
B. Y. O. B.

April 17th 1999

Join us for an exercise class geared for

the large & supersize woman

Place Alexis & Tom's 11 A.M.

Weat Loose clothes to exercise in &

bring a floor mat or blanket.

Pot Luck Healthy Lunch Items

April 24th,1999

Hawaiian Luau come dress to Hula

Place Alexis & Tom's Time 7 p.m.

B.Y.O.B. & Pot Luck Hawaiian style dishes




407-977-5143 office
407 -977-7610 fax
Address: 923 Ardillita Ct
Winter Springs Fl 32708

EMAIL IF INTERESTED TO ALEXIS OR TOM. Thomas Gleaton, President of Bigger and Better Enterprises Inc. Alexis Adams, Vice President of Bigger and Better Enterprises Inc.



We would like to get some information from all of you out there interested in participating in BIGGER AND BETTER ENTERPRISES. Nothing to personal. Just some info that can help us create better events & newsletters. Thank you for your help. Please email or snail mail the form back to us.

Name ________________________
Address ________________________________________________
Phone #_____________________ Do you want others to have it if they ask us ___________________


Age group 20-30____ 30-40_____ 40 -50______ 50 & over _____

Occupation ___________________________


Would you considering giving others from your area a ride to events?

Are you in need of a ride to events?___________________________

What type of events would you like to see?_____________________


What features can we add to our newsletter that would make it better?__________________________________________________

What would you like to see added to our web site?_______________

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